Four reasons why you may not be getting what you want


December 2006

Hi and Welcome to Issue #016 of Success Express!



Let me guess....you’ve worked hard your whole life, and life IS a struggle – that’s just how it is for you, no matter how many self-help books you read. You were born with a plastic spoon in your mouth, everything you touch turns to mud, yadda yadda yadda….It doesn’t matter how nicely you ask the Universe for what you want, it NEVER delivers…..meanwhile, others around you are enjoying unlimited prosperity, great relationships and fantastic health – why, why, WHY???

Take a look at these common ‘roadblocks’ to success and see if any of them ring true with you:


I’m not good enough

Have you fed yourself the lie that the reason you don’t succeed and others do is because they are somehow better than or superior to you? If this is the case, then recognize this for what it is....a big fat dirty LIE!

You don’t have to be the best at what you do in order to succeed – what you DO have to do is make a conscious decision to recognise what it is you do want and stay focused. True self esteem is based on how you feel about you, regardless of who else is around. If you continue to compare yourself with other people, you are setting yourself up for disappointment every time; because there will always be someone younger, better looking, and richer than you around the corner....but there is only one YOU ....and trust me when I say that you are priceless!

OK, I know I go on about beliefs a lot but the sad truth is that lack of confidence and low self esteem are huge stumbling blocks in so many people’s lives – in fact, I would go as far as to say that 90% of my client’s are stuck in ‘I-hate-me-land’. If this hits a chord with you, then you owe it to yourself to do something about it.

Do you believe that you have no control over your thoughts and feelings? It doesn’t have to be that way. You CAN unlearn feelings of fear and lack of confidence, because the manifestation of these feelings are simply a habit that you’ve learnt somewhere along the way in your life. And we all know that habits can be broken!



I don’t deserve it

If not you, then WHO??? This is a very frustrating conversation that I have with many people who are trying to create prosperity and abundance in their lives. One part of them wants to be fabulously wealthy, and the other part of them is saying ‘but what about all the starving children in the world?’

Here’s how it is, plain and simple: The Universal Law of attraction says that you can have absolutely anything that you want – all you have to do is ask. Ask, and the Universe provides...but here's the tricky bit – you have to allow it. And this is where most people fall down – they say: 'I want a new car, but I can’t afford it'....or 'I want to lose weight but look how fat I am!'. YOU CANNOT GET WHAT YOU WANT BY FEARING ITS OPPOSITE.

There is an unlimited stream of abundance, health and wellbeing available to every single person in the world; only not everybody knows how to allow it into their lives – It’s a vicious circle, and one that you don’t have to be part of! You DO deserve to have what you want. That IS how it’s supposed to be. There is no stream of evil waiting to take you down – only love, light, wellbeing and happiness….if you’re willing to let it in, that is.

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I don’t have it NOW

For everything you want in life, there is also its counterpart – the lack of what you want. The Universal law of attraction says that if you want something you need only focus on it, and it will come. Focusing on what you want in kind of like ‘asking’ the Universe, which is always happy to oblige – in fact, it will give you exactly what it thinks you want. The trouble is, what you want and what the Universe thinks you want often end up being quite different. You see, the Universe defines what you ‘want’ to be whatever you pay attention to....whether you like it or not.

Here’s an example; let's say you decide to 'ask' the Universe for good health by focusing on your health, eating right and exercising. Well that's great, and it will get you part of the way there - however, if you are afraid of getting sick, and you allow those feelings of fear to dominate your thoughts, then you are not actually paying attention to the subject of good health; rather, you are paying attention to the lack of good health; therefore, the Universe translates this into 'I want to be sick’.

So how do you get it right? Well the easiest way is to pay attention to how you’re feeling; if you are feeling depressed, angry, frustrated or fearful about what you want, then you are probably focusing on the lack of what you want. On the other hand if you feel excited, joyful and optimistic, then you are on the right track. The best way to cultivate the feelings you want is to use your imagination and visualisation; pretend that you already have what you want right now…how does that feel in your body? The more you feel the feeling of having what you want, the easier it is to draw it to you.

So make it easy on yourself....relax and trust that the Universe IS friendly. Claim your share, because if you don't then someone else will!



I’ve always been.....

Do you believe you’re stuck? Albert Einstein said this: “Nothing happens until something moves”. So really, nothing is ever stuck because everything is moving all of the time. Take a look at your neighbourhood; look at the houses and buildings that are there – were some of them not there 5 years ago? Quite probably, because everything is changing all of the time!

If you keep looking at the rear view mirror of your life then that’s where you’re destined to move – backwards! Just because your life has turned out a certain way up until now, doesn’t mean it has to be that way forever. When you drive from one suburb to another, does it ever occur to you that you won’t get there? NO! You keep your eyes on the road and eventually, you get where you want to go. Now, if only we could all do that with our life goals as well!

Are you focusing on what IS in your life instead of what COULD BE? Let’s say you want to be wealthy....if 5% of the time you’re saying ‘I wish I was wealthy’, and 95% of the time you’re saying ‘I hate being poor’...well, you get the picture. Stop 'asking' for what you don't want! Get focused on what you DO want and it will come to you....much sooner than you think.

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Make a decision today to identify and remove the beliefs that are no longer serving you well.

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So there you have it! I hope you enjoyed this issue of Success Express...have a great day!

- Sonia

Manifest Your Success




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