Start the New Year with a BANG - Positive Habits for Life

January 2006

Happy New Year and Welcome to Issue #005 of Success Express!

In this issue, I will be talking about how important it is to watch your self-talk

  • What is self-talk?

  • What you notice is what you get

  • Believe it and you will see it – get excited by the power of faith

  • Vigilance is the key

  • What is self-talk?

    Have you ever walked past a mirror, caught a glimpse of yourself and felt a sinking feeling inside? If so, then this is your arch-enemy, ‘negative self-talk’ at work. You see, self-talk can take many forms; it could be words, thoughts, or even a fleeting glimmer of emotion. In fact, sometimes it can be so subtle that you don’t even recognize it. But rest assured, that sinking feeling you get in the pit of your stomach translates a very clear message to your subconscious mind:

    “I’m not good enough”

    Many of us simply haven't got a clue how to love and respect ourselves. What about you? Were you brought up to believe that it is somehow noble to downplay your successes or to put yourself down? That if you believe you're ok then that means you are conceited or arrogant? If so, get rid of this misguided is OK to like yourself!

    Negative thoughts, feelings and emotions are like weeds, and if they’re allowed to flourish, they will take over your mind and destroy your soul. Have you ever heard of the expression 'Misery loves company'? Whose company are YOU keeping, and are they contributing to your sense of doom?

    Don't let yourself be drawn into the negative energy of others. It is up to you to become the gatekeeper of your own mind. Take responsibility for your own thoughts and I promise you, you will not be disappointed!

    What you notice IS what you get

    If you can do nothing else in this lifetime, learn to notice the good things around you. It is the single most important factor in attracting what you want in life, and it’s imperative that you get it right.

    You really, truly ARE what you think. If you focus on the positive things that are happening in your life, then I guarantee, you will get more of the same....but there’s another side to that coin; If you focus on what’s lacking in your life, then sure as the sun rises each day, you will continue to get more of what you don't want. We hear it all the time, don’t we:

    “Think Positive”

    Well ‘deeerr....!’ If it was that easy, we’d all be doing it....right? The most frustrating advice to receive when your life is in the proverbial ‘toilet’, is to “cheer up” or to look on the ”bright side”.....("WHAT bright side??" I hear you say...)

    When your life is not going well, it can be really hard to see how things could possibly improve for you. I know this because I’ve been there. And it’s precisely BECAUSE I’ve been there myself, that I’m continuing to hammer home this point:

    Your feelings, actions and beliefs ARE caused by your thoughts.

    I really want you to GET this, because it took me way too long to get it and I want you to benefit from my learning. Okay, so now that you get it, how do you go about changing a lifetime of bad habits?

    Firstly, give yourself permission to take one step at a time. If you need a little help, hypnosis is a great place to start. This powerful therapy helps you to tap into your inner resources and replace negative belief systems and habits with positive ones.

    A skilled therapist identifies the belief systems that are not serving you well, and shows you strategies that help you eradicate them. When we talk directly to the subconscious mind, we firmly implant positive beliefs and behaviours that will eventually become our reality. This is because your subconscious mind does not know the difference between what is vividly imagined and what is under the right conditions, you can literally tell it ANYTHING!

    If you’re a ‘do-it-yourself-er’, there are many tools and techniques you can use yourself. Practising daily personal affirmations produces dramatic results in a short period of time. I know this because I practise affirmations daily.....and they have changed my life. And because I know how powerful they are, I write personal affirmations for all my clients, which I expect them to practise as homework in between sessions. So you see, I really do practise what I preach!

    Believe it and you will see it – get excited by the power of faith

    Make no mistake about this; you always get what you expect and your expectations are created by your beliefs. So it makes sense that if you want more out of life you must expect to receive more. So how exactly do we do that?

    By creating conditions that allow what you expect to receive to actually come to you.

    But there’s a must have faith that things will get better. Many people want or wish for things to be better but deep down they don’t really believe this will happen, so they don’t expect anything different to happen. And guess what happens when you don’t expect anything different to happen? You don’t do anything different. Action is vital!

    Think about something you wanted recently that you got without having to even think about it. For example, let’s say you decided to buy a copy of your favourite magazine. When you go to the shop, you expect your magazine to be there.

    It doesn’t even occur to you that the shop won’t have it, and even if it doesn’t, you know you can simply go to a different shop that will have it. It’s a given, because you believe without a doubt that you will get your magazine, and this belief creates expectancy. Belief = expectancy = reality!

    So the key to creating expectancy in your life, is to change your beliefs about the things you say you want. For example, if you want to be wealthy but you believe there is not enough to go around, then your behaviour remains the same your beliefs are in control.

    Daily affirmations will help you to set your sights on creating beliefs that serve you well. Act as though it is already happening and it WILL become your reality. Use the power of faith to turn your life around today!

    Vigilance is the key

    It’s one thing to say you’re going to be more positive and another to actually do it. Be vigilant and determined and you will notice rapid, positive changes in your life. Whenever you notice negative self-talk coming into your mind, whether it is a thought, feeling or simply a fleeting emotion, tap yourself on the wrist and say ‘next’.

    With practice, the negative thoughts will appear less and less, until one day you will find that you are automatically creating empowering and positive belief systems that turn into expectations, and then reality. Make sure you hang around positive people too. If you spend too much time around negative people, you will be drawn into their energy…so be aware of the impact others have on you.

    Remember to practise daily affirmations and consider enlisting the services of a qualified therapist to help you identify your blocks and create new, empowering beliefs.

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    So there you have it! I hope you enjoyed this issue of Success Express...have a great day!

    - Sonia

    Manifest Your Success

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